There is a sorrow
beyond all grief which leads to joy
and a fragility
out of whose depths emerges strength.
- Rashani Rea, The Unbroken
Loss can feel excruciating and disorienting. And it is also the ultimate shared human experience, because none of us can avoid loss in our lifetime. Whether it results from the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship, a change in our identity, facing climate change or disillusionment with our world, or confronting our personal traumas, loss is universal. So why do we often feel pressured to manage our losses alone and within a prescribed timeline?
Grief is one of the most multidimensional human experiences offered to us in our lifetime. It cracks us open like a geode to reveal the deepest aspects of our individual, communal, and cultural selves.
As your therapist, I walk side-by-side with you as we navigate the terrain of grief and loss. I help you track where you are and where you may be going, and I offer survival skills so that you can build resilience to continue along this necessary journey. Together we explore your unique story of grief at a transformative pace. We give it value and respect. This alone can begin to ease the intensity of your pain and despair.
Some clients have been holding unresolved grief for some time. This is grief that is begging to be heard and seen. Once it is witnessed in its complexity, you may find that your suffering begins to recede with time.
Grief is a gateway to other emotions, like joy, delight, and serenity. Although it may be hard to think of your pain going away right now, grief has the capacity to expand our emotional selves to eventually reclaim a sense of living fully and with depth, even in the aftermath of devastating losses.
During my clinical training at Camarillo Hospice, I encountered clients experiencing a variety of losses, including:
Grief is one of the most multidimensional human experiences offered to us in our lifetime. It cracks us open like a geode to reveal the deepest aspects of our individual, communal, and cultural selves.
- Grief activist and spiritual elder Sobonfu Some shared that "Communal grieving offers something that we cannot get when we grieve by ourselves. Through validation, acknowledgement and witnessing, communal grieving allows us to experience a level of healing that is deeply and profoundly freeing." As humans, we are not designed to grieve in isolation. Therapy can provide a safe and sturdy space for you to be companioned in your grief.
As your therapist, I walk side-by-side with you as we navigate the terrain of grief and loss. I help you track where you are and where you may be going, and I offer survival skills so that you can build resilience to continue along this necessary journey. Together we explore your unique story of grief at a transformative pace. We give it value and respect. This alone can begin to ease the intensity of your pain and despair.
Some clients have been holding unresolved grief for some time. This is grief that is begging to be heard and seen. Once it is witnessed in its complexity, you may find that your suffering begins to recede with time.
Grief is a gateway to other emotions, like joy, delight, and serenity. Although it may be hard to think of your pain going away right now, grief has the capacity to expand our emotional selves to eventually reclaim a sense of living fully and with depth, even in the aftermath of devastating losses.
During my clinical training at Camarillo Hospice, I encountered clients experiencing a variety of losses, including:
- death of a parent
- death of a partner or spouse
- death of a child
- miscarriage
- death of a sibling
- death of other significant people in your life, like an aunt, best friend, or former lover
- death of a person who you had a conflicted relationship with
- death of a loved one to suicide or homicide
- divorce/loss of a relationship
- family conflicts
- involuntary childlessness or infertility
- climate change, war, oppression, systems of injustice
- loss of a job
- loss of a home
- losses associated with childhood trauma
- losses associated with chronic illness
- losses around our sense of identity
“Is sorrow the true wild?
And if it is—and if we join them--
your wild to mine—what’s that?
. . . . What if we joined our sorrows, I’m saying.
I’m saying: What if that is joy?”
-Ross Gay, The Book of Delights
And if it is—and if we join them--
your wild to mine—what’s that?
. . . . What if we joined our sorrows, I’m saying.
I’m saying: What if that is joy?”
-Ross Gay, The Book of Delights